Why My Two Wives Left Me When I Was Suffering– Mr Ibu Finally Opens Up

In life, there are two major events that are sure

to change the course of a person's life: marriage

and children. Nigerian actor John Okafor aka

Mr. Ibu has been married three times and has a

number of children. That means that the course

of his life has been changed a number of times

and there are lessons he has learned from it all.

Can you imagine not one but two different

spouses walking out on you for the same

reason? Wow, that must be rough. But that is

what happened to Mr. Ibu. In an interview with

Punch, Mr. Ibu opened up about how his first

two wives walking out of his marriage as well

as fatherhood has affected him. Here's what Mr.

lbu said.

When you are young and single it is a big

difference from being a married man, and a

bigger difference when you start to have

children. When you have babies, you are

becoming a man, and when you are becominga

man, you are thinking big. There were certain

thingsI wouldn't do that I do now, because I am

the head of my family and family comes first.

Also, my children look up to me, learn from me

and emulate me. I have to show them that I am

responsible, so that they can be proud of whol

am. God says you should nurture them, provide

for them and that is what I do. Fatherhood

makes youa responsible person. We have

fathers who are responsible and there are

others who are irresponsible and careless.

When I started my journey into fatherhood, I

was a careless father, but by God's grace I was

able to retrace my steps, build up myself and

today I am proudly a responsible father. If you

are a careless father, who doesn't care for his

children, who doesn't have love for his and

family, who doesn't have love and passion for

building a home, such a person is not a man.I

have been able to live up to my responsibilities

as a father by providing for my family and

making sure they never lack.

You have to build confidence in yourself. You

learn everyday as a father, and I never miss any

opportunity to learn everyday and this makes

me a better parent. I have people who learn

from me and I teach them how to build a home

even though I had some ups and do wns in the

course of trying to build a home. My first and

second marriages failed; they (my wives) left

me after having a child each for me. I wondered

what made them make such decisions and they

made me know that it was because I didn't have

money. This made me know that I have to be

able to keep my family and provide for them

and make sure that they are satisfied and not

have any reason to look down on me.

Mr. Ibu with family today

It is very rare to see celebrities open up and take

responsibility for their own shortcomings. For

Mr. Ibu to admit that he in fact wasn't always a

responsible father or family man and now is

trying to become responsible and provide for

his family as well as keep them satisfied, is a

very commendable thing.

The big lesson I learnt from what he said and

the lesson Mr. lbu too has learnt is that

maintaining a family is very hard work. It's

something one has to be ready for. To keep

them, provide for them, make sure they're

satisfied, and give them no reason to look down

on you is hard so one has to be very prepared to

do all that before they make the decision to

become fathers. Very important lesson. It's

good to see Mr. Ibu happy and thriving in his

current marriage. What do you think about what

he said?